The ONE question you need to ask yourself to know if your career will be fulfilling
Have you ever thought about the path that your life is taking?
Where will you be in 5 – 10 – 20 – 40 years?
Have you consciously directed that path AND do you like where you are going?
Now, lets change direction.
Lets look at what you actually want to get out of your life.
Where do you WANT to be in 5 – 10 – 20 – 40 years.
How do those 2 pictures match up?
Does the second picture look more appealing?
I speak with doctors every day, and many of them love their jobs, but just can’t see themselves doing exactly that they are doing now, but for the rest of their lives.
They love that they get to help people, use their brainpower to solve medical problems, lead teams (or not!) and the various other things they get to do daily, but, they don’t really get to engage with things that they imagined their life would be such as spending time with the kids, getting creative, learning new skills, travelling, cooking (or insert any skills YOU don’t have time for here).
And, I’m here to be the bearer of bad news.
Unless you get clear about exactly what you want, and WHY, then you’re never going to get there.
It’s simple, but it’s not easy.
If you don’t do this, you’re always going to feel like things are just kinda out of your reach. Whether that’s the lifestyle you want, the car you want to drive, the travel you want to experience, or even the energy to run around the playground with your kids.
The first step to working with us, and ALWAYS the first step is ‘what do you want’.
Not just from a point of view of the stuff or things you want in your life, but what do you want your life to look like. From there we can start to build a day, week, month, year of what you want to take up your time.
You see, the most important things in your life should take priority. And, when you start to see how most of you time is spent, many people find that things that urgent things are done quicker and overtake things that are a priority. Or, things that seem like they are important (they may be important to other people) are done before things that really light them up.
That’s a recipe for an unfulfilling life.
When I did this originally, I realised that I loved my work, but I didn’t want to do it all day everyday. Many of things that really lit me up inside involved having a group of friends, peers, mentors and teachers around me, helping to make me feel connected. It’s that feeling of connection that I desired. When I understood that, and realised that what I was doing was moving me away from that, I could consciously make a decision to build a life that support my wants and needs. That included my job, my relationships, the way I spent my time and the way I recharged my batteries.
Of course, I couldn’t change things with a snap of my fingers.
I had to start with little things. I stopped trying to work out by myself, and joined group fitness classes. I stopped trying to build things in isolation, and started to work with teams on projects. And, from every decision I made, I started to see that I could build the life and experience. Eventually, this trickled onto the work that I do, how I build businesses and the projects that I choose to take onboard.
It was simple, but it wasn’t easy.
It was something that I had to work at, and consciously make decisions about on a daily basis.
What’s the point of this? Why did I do it?
Well, just like you, I want to be happy.
I want to live my life on my terms and build things that fulfill me. Body and soul. I realised I couldn’t do that on the trajectory that I was on, so I made the decision to change. That decision, started with:
“What do I want my life to look like in 5 years time?”
As Ingrid Bergman once famously said:
“Success is getting what you want; Happiness is wanting what you get”